Most folks (nearly everyone?) comes up with a resolution every New Year’s Eve, whether it’s to lose weight, or be nice to their jerk neighbor, or better themselves in some other way. My news feed on Facebook the past three days has been absolutely LITTERED with New Year’s resolution status updates. I saw one person post something like “Facebook should come up with technology to show everyone your New Year’s resolution post at the end of the year so you have to defend why you didn’t end up doing it.” (That may not be the exact phraseology, but it is the general point, and I can’t seem to find the original post.)
My main peeve with resolutions is this: why does self-betterment have to revolve around the changing of the year? Can’t you, at any point in time, make a resolution (which is, in essence, a pact with yourself, for yourself, and no one else’s business) to change? For instance, in November I started posting on this blog again. Not because it was the new year, but because I realize that writing helps me feel better about myself, and that even publishing a few posts a month was one way to get myself back into my craft of writing.
Changing yourself for the better is great, and even highly encouraged. No one likes to watch the years go by and never see themselves get any better. All I’m saying is that I think New Year’s resolutions are frequently broken because they feel like an obligation. “Well, it’s New Year’s day. Better choose a resolution out of a hat.” If you don’t have any serious attachment to a resolution, or you feel like you just made one because you were “supposed to,” it’s not going to mean anything and of course you’re not going to follow through.
The point of all of this, I suppose, is this: if you are unhappy with something about the way you are living your life, FIX IT. Do whatever you need to do to enact positive change, no matter what time of the year it is. Don’t let self-betterment hinge on an obligation you’re going to resent.